I have always been a teacher.
I completed my Bachelor’s of Education and taught high school for 5 years as an English and Home Economics teacher. I loved my students, but at the end of my 5th year, I felt that there were many things about the profession that was incongruent with the way I was wired. So I made a crazy leap from teaching to the financial industry.
For almost a decade in banking, I got to use my teaching skills both with clients, colleagues, and eventually staff that reported to me when I moved into management. I loved the challenge of producing results and climbing the corporate ladder.
During the second half of that decade with the bank, I had been working intensively with a therapist. As I peeled back layers during those sessions, a new, more authentic, me started to emerge. My therapist told me that it is common for people who undergo a significant emotional transformation to decide to make a drastic career change. Sure enough, towards the end of 2013, I knew my time in the corporate world had come to an end.
Secondhand Therapy was born last year as a result of asking myself what comes as naturally to me as breathing (thanks to Danielle LaPorte!). Besides knowing that I can’t help but teach, I also realized that people were constantly asking me about my therapy sessions, but were too scared or broke to go to the therapist themselves. I was always giving out “secondhand therapy” (as my friend Esther called it), based on what I was learning or reading. I knew that my ability to decode information and break it into bite-size pieces for others had always been an asset in my career, but I had never considered translating this into my own company.
It is both exhilarating and terrifying to take the essence of who you are and try to turn it into a full time business. Choosing to evolve into a bigger version of myself requires courage on a daily basis.
What has been YOUR biggest challenge or life obstacle that YOU feel has dimmed YOUR GLOW?
I think my biggest challenge has been allowing myself to be BIG. I can identify this only as a result of reading Tara Mohr’s book “Playing Big” last year. I always thought of myself as courageous, but that book made me realize that I had been playing small because of the shame I had carried from when I tried to play big in my younger years. Deciding that I was going to play big in both my personal life and my business has altered the course of my life.
I now know that if I’m feeling scared when I’m taking risks with my business, this is often because I’m occupying a bigger space than I’m used to. This is a good thing. Bring on that type of fear!!!
How have YOU grown as a woman in the last year? What lessons, insights or ah-ha moments have you had?
Besides the decision to play big, I think my biggest ah-ha moment was realizing that I needed to let go of my Plan B for 2015. What I mean by that is, as my business has been gaining momentum over the past few months, I was holding myself back because I felt like I needed to be sensible and not take too big of a risk. So I had lined up a Plan B for 2015.
I cannot describe the amount of anxiety that this Plan B somehow created for me. I ended up talking with my therapist about it quite a bit.
I usually use the question, “What is the bravest thing I can do?” to guide me when I’m making any decision (thanks to Brené Brown). It turns out that the bravest thing for me to do was scrapping my Plan B and staying at home full time with my online business. It was so freeing to give myself permission to do this! I literally created a permission slip for myself and posted it on Instagram as public declaration.
What else do YOU want to share with the YOU GLOW GIRL!® Community?
I am on a mission to help busy women start investing in their emotional wellbeing! If you have been stuck in survival mode and know that you have been ignoring your emotional wellbeing, come join me at Secondhand Therapy.
Secondhand Therapy occupies the space between candid conversations with your best buddies (let’s face it, usually over a glass of wine!) and the commitment of working with a licensed therapist.
By the end of this month I will be launching my new website, as well as a series of “Introducing You” eClasses designed to help you get to know your authentic self.
In the meanwhile, I am giving away a free 30 page eBook, “Start Investing in Your Emotional Wellbeing: 25 Practical Tips to Move Beyond Survival Mode.” I am also a regular contributor to the Huffington Post and Vancity Buzz, with occasional guest posts appearing on blogs such as Tiny Buddha.
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