What is your story? Who are you? What is your life journey all about?
I am Yogini, Relationship Breakthrough Specialist, Author and Speaker.
I am an Indian woman by origin. My culture taught me to conform. I wasn’t raised to be an independent thinker. In fact, my wings were clipped.
Starting with my career: I followed in my brothers steps and graduated as a Pharmacist from the University of London. I had an arranged marriage. I complied and did what was expected of me. After marriage I came to the US and made a radical decision: to no longer pursue Pharmacy. I couldn’t bear the thought of turning someone away simply because they didn’t have medical insurance. This was a major turning point for me and put me on my path.
As I began soul searching: where does suffering begin, what do I do now, and who am I? My desperation activated in me a deep yearning for real answers. I have been on the path of self-development ever since that time and I will forever be a student of life. During this time I studied many different modalities of energy healing in depth. I studied “chakra healing” for 15 years. After that, I studied hypnotherapy as a tool for accessing the subconscious mind.
My life was like that of a military wife. I was plagued with anxiety and never felt a sense of belonging because we moved so often. As I navigated through many life transitions, I struggled to manage my sense of overwhelming angst. This led me to study and implement many different methods of meditation. In fact, I have moved 15 times in the last 24 years of my life. I yearned for a sense of community.
I got a wakeup call in 2010 when my father died. It wasn’t until I stared death in the face, that I realized that I was numb to my core. All my life I had lived my life for everyone else but me. I know what it’s like to live a muted existence. I was the queen of conformity.
My father’s death left me feeling fragile, pierced and broken open. I was raw yet vibrantly alive.
In August of 2013 I make a bold decision. I gave up my security and parted from a life that I had known for 24 years with my courage and self-belief in hand. After a year and a half, now I realize that this wasn’t about me leaving someone else but more about me rediscovering myself. I stepped away to come home to myself.
Having lived a fast-paced, toxic lifestyle, I know what it’s like to be filled with constant low level anxiety and being unable to think clearly or sleep deeply.
It was only when I spoke my truth and dared to follow through on my inner guidance that I freed myself to live life on my terms.
I have lived for far too long not knowing that I had a voice to share. So it is my absolute passion to give voice to everyone so that no one ever has to suffer in silence.
I empower overstressed men and women who are 35 years and older to break free of toxic relationships and lifestyles by experiencing richer, more connected relationships, more balanced lives with greater peace of mind so that they show up authentically with even more passion, power and presence.
What has been your biggest challenge or life obstacle that you feel has dimmed your glow?
My greatest challenge has been to have the courage to break free of my cultural paradigms and the patterns of conditioning and perceived security. All my life I had lived my life for everyone else but me. I had dimmed my light and dulled my voice to conform and fit into my comfortable, compartmentalized life. I lived this way for 48 years of my life. So it took a great deal of courage for me to take the leap of faith in August 2013.
Setting down the “queen of conformity crown” has been my greatest challenge.
How have you grown as a woman in the last year? What lessons, insights or ah-ha moments have you had?
I dared to speak my truth even when I didn’t want to and moved beyond the fear of losing significant relationships to step out fully into my calling. While this has been challenging, I know that I can only take people as far as I am willing to go myself.
Living authentically has certainly pushed me past the point of playing it safe and being in my comfort zone: I had the opportunity to speak with the likes of Mark Victor Hansen, Author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul Series and Sharon Lechter, Author of Think and Grow Rich for Women, in New York City, Times square in June 2014 at the Inspiration 2020 event.
It was intimidating and growth orienting to say the least, to share the stage with these high profile speakers and exhilarating to speak to a larger audience. I had never been to Times Square before so I had some excitement intermingled with trepidation about the whole trip. Know that I didn’t feel fully ready. However, I trusted that if the opportunity shows up then you are ready.
I have recently been presented with another great opportunity: to co-author a book with Jim Britt, a former coach of Tony Robbins along with 19 other authors globally. The book is called “Change” and is about navigating the different aspects of life transitions.
In the book writing process I have stepped into the next level of “showing up.” As I was writing my biography for the book, I was plagued with the question: “Who am I?” My paradigm shift in the past year has been significant. I no longer feel like the woman I used to be a couple of years ago. So I have decided to go with my first name only, Yogini, as this is what resonates with me. I had to be in integrity with myself.
At this stage in my life, I feel as though I am shifting beyond labels and self- identification. There was a lot of fear that arose within me when I was processing and contemplating this question. I realize that fear arises whenever we shed the familiar. It is never easy to embrace the unknown or the unfamiliar. Yet if you want something to change, you must be willing to step outside of your comfort zone and be willing to shift the underlying thoughts and beliefs that no longer serve you.
What else do you want to share with the Glow Girl Community?
I’d like to share with you some of the profound gifts of awakening that I discovered in the final days I spent with my dying father upon reflection.
It awakened a fire in me to live my life fully after living a safe, compliant life for 48 years of my life. I don’t want to have any regrets when I die. I urge you today to wipe the slate clean. Acknowledge the goodness and divinity within everyone. Have the courage to forgive everyone so that you can travel this journey lightly.
Your life is precious. Time does not wait for anyone. How you show up in your life matters. Stop watching life from the sidelines. Dare to be fully engaged and play full out.
Cherish the moments you share with your loved ones. Have the audacity to live your life authentically, gracefully and with presence. When you are present, you can relish the beauty of a sunset, bask in the deliciousness of a warm caress and experience deeper, more connected relationships.
Stop playing it safe and unleash your inner brilliance. Do not settle for mediocrity. Don’t wait to be fully ready. You’ll never feel ready enough. Don’t wait for the right time; the time is right now.
When life puts you in challenging situations: Don’t say “why me?” say “watch me” and rise above it. Within every challenge lies the opportunity to become who you truly are.
Our greatest power as human beings is our power to choose. I didn’t know that for the longest time until I got real with myself and I used it. I will remind you today that you too have a choice. Will you use it?
To learn more about Yogini or have her speak at an event check out her website at www.powerofshowingup.com or email her at [email protected]
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