Beyond Loneliness

Last July when I was developing Glow Leadership and practicing some post writing, I wrote a post called “Loneliness.” My kids had just left for two weeks’ vacation with their dad, my supervisor had recently changed affecting the close working relationship I had come to experience and my partner was working oversees for an extended period. I felt as though the key areas of connection in my life had been temporarily disturbed. I felt lonely.

I never posted that post, but history has a way of repeating itself. Our goal as human beings is to grow, evolve and develop new perspectives. I think I can honestly say I have experienced some significant growth in this area within the last year.

But I am human and I will fully admit to feeling lonely when I woke up this morning. Last night I said goodbye to my kids for two weeks as they leave on their annual trip this morning, my partner is travelling and even more significant than losing my supervisor last year, my position was eliminated two weeks ago and I have no “job” to report to on Monday morning.

Why does this present a challenge? I tend to do well showing up every day to take care of my children, my partner, my work. I love being a care giver and providing for others. I strive to be the best mother, girlfriend and leader I can be. For the most part I excel in these roles. But when these roles are stripped away, I admit that I feel uncomfortable. I have traditionally struggled with the space of “self.” But in the last year that has shifted greatly.

I now understand the difference between “being alone” and “feeling lonely.” They no longer go hand in hand. In embracing this alone time I have only one person to care for and connect with– myself. I now have an opportunity to practice what I preach – that is, you cannot give to others if you are running on empty.  And – when you are alone you have the opportunity to connect with yourself. The inspired, divine part of you. This is the one that leads you to great things.

Last year in my time alone I developed the basic structure of Glow. I connected with myself and started out on a path towards my life’s purpose. In that I became a better mother, a better partner and a better leader. This year I have the opportunity to develop the basic structure of my business so that I can truly embrace my life’s purpose and expand my opportunities to bring out the very best in many more leaders. On Monday morning I report to work for myself.

My challenge for you is to create some time alone. Use this time to connect with yourself rather than applying avoidance techniques and filling up your time with different activities and outings. Trust that great things will result. I know they will!